Month: June 2009

Caring: A Truly Win-Win Proposition

Caring costs you nothing, it makes you feel good and it makes those around you feel good.  It also makes you look good to those who observe your caring behaviors and now you have all these people who are looking for a chance to care back–this is Win-Win in action.  What’s interesting is that while…

Stay Away From Arguments

Most people look at arguments as contests with a winner and a loser.  In truth, there are no winners, only losers.  If you lose the argument, you look bad and feel bad.  If you win, the other person (the loser) looks bad and feels bad.  Now, you have succeeded in turning the other person against…

Winning Over A New Person

The quickest way of winning over a new person is to send them a clear message that you are for real.  One way of doing this is to promise to do something for them and then exceed their expectations with how you follow through on your promise.  For example, if you promise to get this…

Look At Your Relationships as Investments

Relationships are investments that have an awesome return.  The reason is that personal relationships, as they develop, naturally lead to trust.  When people trust you, they get excited about going the extra mile for you because they know you’re going to reciprocate in some meaningful way–whether it be a “thank you,” a pat on the…

Sincere Appreciation Gets Results

One of the deepest needs of our human existence is the need to be appreciated.  Each and everyone of us absolutely loves to be appreciated for who we are and what we do.  If you  satisfy this need in those around you, you’ll have all kinds of people excited and willing to do just about…

Caring Energizes Everyone Around You

When you open up and care about people, you make them feel really good about themselves.  This releases the reservoir of positive energy that resides in all of us.  As a resut, people not only feel compelled to care back, but they use some of this newly released postive energy to care about those around…

Negative Comments Hurt Everyone

Nothing good ever comes out of negative comments.  They make you, the sender, look bad to the people observing your behavior.  They also make the receiver feel bad.  If you regularly dish out negative comments, don’t expect any of these people to give you their best efforts the next time you ask them for a favor.  –…